Obsession with an external object is only an illusion an infatuation to fill a temporary needs or gap in ourselves. It is simply attachment which, if sustained, will become a dependency.
And attachment and dependencies are the real-reason why we sometimes experience a lack of real, deep lasting happiness in our lives.
We are influenced to make our happiness dependent on some event, condition, person, object etc. This is why we keep delaying our happiness until conditions are just right in our life. We think we will be happy in the future and then wonder why we are-not happy now.
When we are in the future we are absent to the present. We cannot be in the past so we are really nowhere. But life is never just right, and the future never comes – there is only now!
And that's why, in order to be happy we must make our happiness a decision and not dependency.
This appears difficult in the beginning, because we have spent our life being dependent on acquiring something or someone or seeing the result we desired or wanting some pain to go away, before we allow ourselves to be happy. A dependency.
That which we wish for others we are creating in our own minds and in our own lives That is our reality.
Give to the world the best you have and the best will come back to you. Good feelings for others are like ointments that heal our wounds and we re-establish friendships and relationships.
Good feelings are generated in the mind, are transmitted through your attitude and are reflected in your eyes and smile.
Smiling opens the Heart and a glance can make miracles.
When we confront a problem or a difficult situation, we tend to face it with worry or negative thoughts.
Although outwardly we might seem to face the situation, we are not able to deal with it. And most of the time we find that we are failing. The best way to deal with a situation is to start by calming the mind.
When the thought waves are stilled the mind is illumined.
Only a calm mind can find the answers to problems.
I need to understand that every problem Has an answer. When my mind is relaxed I can trust my intuition to find the answer that is already there.
Problems are just decisions to be made.A calm mind allows us to make the best decisions
Be Content Wherever I am is wherever I am meant to be, whatever I am doing is whatever I am meant to be doing and whatever everyone else is doing is exactly what they are meant to be doing - this is contentment. If you do want to change where you are, or what you are doing, the first thing is to be content with wherever you are and whatever you are doing right now! Paradoxically that's what attracts opportunities and invitations to be somewhere else! Why? Because you are a living magnet, and contentment is one of your most attractive qualities.
According to your dominant thoughts so you will attract the people and circumstances into your life. Being content right now attracts the best possible future.
Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.’” You are always responsible for how you act, no matter how you feel.
Our work is to discover our world and then with all our heart give ourself to it. The struggle you're in today is developing the strength you need for tomorrow.
For where you stumble Therein lies your greatest treasure.
Mastering others is Strength. Mastering yourself is True Power.
We are no longer happy as soon as we wish to be happier.
At the core of all anger is a need that is not being fulfilled.
a simple tool for change. Instead of saying, 'I am angry because they ...' we can say, 'I am angry because I am needing ....'
We usually get angry at someone, don't we? We judge that someone has done something wrong and we want them to be punished.
In truth, the actions of others are never to blame. It's our thinking - our blaming and judgment - that causes the anger. And we blame and judge because we have a need that has not been met.
There is me in Blame.
How much more grievous are the consequences of anger than the causes.